The Sims 4 romantic boundaries settings: What they mean and how to change them

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The SIms 4 - One Sim offers a rose to another to flirt.

But if you’ve ever wanted your Sims to have multiple partners—or just let your flirtatious Sims be themselveswithoutit ruining any relationship they get into—you’ve likely had to do some modding. Now, The Sims 4 finally has a shiny new Romantic Boundaries menu that lets you tailor your Sims' preferences regarding romantic and physical jealousy, making polyamory and other preferences possible for the first time.

Via a new tab that’s similar to the game’s Gender and Sexual Orientation tabs, you’re able to make quite a few neat combinations, whether it’s having a strictly monogamous Sim, a Sim who’s fully down to be in open relationships, or even a Sim who’s not okay with their partner flirting with other Sims but is okay with them WooHooing around—good luck figuring out how to make that happen without flirting though. Here’s everything you’ll want to know about Romantic Boundaries in The Sims 4, including how to set them and what the defaults are.

How to set romantic boundaries

Open the “More Details” menu in Create-A-Sim to find the Romantic Boundaries tab.(Image credit: Electronic Arts)

The Sims 4 - Romantic Boundaries menu expanded under the “More Details” menu in Create-A-Sim

To change a Sim’s romantic boundaries, you’ll want to head to Create-A-Sim. Once you’re in CAS, you can click the plumbob icon in the top left corner and then click the three dots to expand the “More Details” menu. To the right of the Sexual Orientation tab, you’ll see a brand new Romantic Boundaries tab.

Once you’ve accessed this menu, you’ll be able to set your Sim’s preferences with the four handy options explained below. The world is your oyster!

Default romantic boundaries

In the game’s official terms, this means that they’ll:

It’s also worth noting that setting a Sim’s boundary setting to no (for example, saying they won’t feel jealous if a romantic partner WooHoos with another Sim) might still cause them to have a minor reaction depending on their selected Personality Traits such as the “Jealous” trait.

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